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Understanding protective behaviours
Separating a behaviour from the intention underneath it.
One way to look at it
- 1The behaviourWhat actually happens, described without judgement.
- 2The moment beforeWhat was felt or sensed just beforehand.
- 3The jobWhat the behaviour prevents, delays or hides.
- 4The costWhat it takes from you now, honestly and gently.
- 5The alternativeWhat might meet the same need with less cost.
Changing a protective behaviour rarely works by force. Understanding it first is not a delay — for most people it is the route.