Everyday signs of people-pleasing

• Card 1

  Difficulty saying no

  • Agreeing to plans, favours or requests before you've actually thought about them
  • Saying yes and then feeling resentful or exhausted afterwards
  • Finding excuses rather than simply declining

• Card 2

  Over-apologising

  • Saying sorry for things that aren't your fault, or for existing in someone's way
  • Apologising for having a need, a feeling, or a different opinion
  • Apologising more than once for the same small thing

• Card 3

  Seeking reassurance

  • Repeatedly checking whether someone is upset with you
  • Needing frequent confirmation that a relationship is okay
  • Replaying conversations, searching for signs you did something wrong

• Card 4

  Losing contact with your own needs

  • Struggling to answer "what do you want to do?"
  • Feeling unsure what you actually think until you know what others think
  • Noticing exhaustion or resentment before you notice the need underneath it

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