Practice8 min
Tolerating healthy space
Staying with yourself when someone is temporarily unavailable.
- 1Notice the alarmName it: something in me is frightened by this gap.
- 2Slow the bodyA longer out-breath, feet on the floor, cold water.
- 3Check the evidenceWhat is known, separately from what is feared.
- 4Offer yourself the reassuranceIn the words you would want to hear.
- 5Choose the next small thingSomething that is yours, not about the relationship.
This is a practice for ordinary distance, not for relationships where you feel unsafe. If something is frightening you, that deserves support rather than tolerance.
You might explore these in your own words — there is no right answer, and stopping partway is completely fine.